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Erful unsparing account of her experience her bereavement and ultimately how she was able to move forward and help other parents who had experienced such profound loss Inglis’s story is a springboard that can help other bereaved parents reflect on key aspects of the experience such as emotional survival in the first year after loss dealing with family fr As a parent that has suffered the lost of a beloved baby this book speaks directly to me Kate so elouently speaks to this sad community and offers a pot of tea lovely writing and immense understanding having suffered the loss of one of her newborn twins uite simply if you know someone that has suffered the loss of a child please give them this book It is so isolating and terrible to suffer that loss This book is like a cup of tea and a good friend when it is needed MOST And it s just beautifully written to boot

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Notes for the Everlost

Iends and bystanders post loss the uniue female state post bereavement of shame and sorrow at “failing” or somehow not fulfilling your role the importance of community recognizing society’s inability to deal with grief and loss how loss breeds compassion coping with anniversaries and beginning the work of “integration” as opposed to “healing” With her deeply melodic writing voice the guts of a commander marching her troops unswervingly into danger and the soul of an ocean Kate Inglis finally finally helps us understand what Tennyson meant when he penned it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all Kate tells us that the erasure of Liam never having been Liam even for a moment would have been sad than his traumatic birth his limited life and our terrible loss of him That he was here at all made love in the world Notes for the Everlost is in fact a guide to grief as Kate shares the seemingly little things and the overwhelmingly tremendous things with us detailing the unvarnished and craptastic realities of life in the immediate aftermath of losing a baby and taking us with her as she survives until weeks became months become years She lets us stay by her side as she arrives at a place where there is as much beauty in knowing that Liam s being here mattered immeasurably as there is sorrow in wondering who he would have become and why he feels so far awayKate gives permission to be sad and angry forever that phantom parenthood is all there is for this child but nearly begs each phantom parent to stop asking why as there is no answer and in each asking the risk of opening the barely healed wound again is profound Most importantly Kate teaches some ways to be a phantom parent who is at peace

Kate Inglis Ð 7 Review

Part memoir part handbook for the heartbroken this powerful unsparing account of losing a premature baby will speak to all who have been bereaved and are grieving and offers inspiration on moving forward gently integrating the loss into lifeWhen Kate Inglis’s twin boys were born prematurely one survived and the other did not Notes for EpubThis is the pow I was lucky enough to be one of the early readers for this incredibly moving memoir of sorts written by a true talent and wonderful human I ve been doubly lucky to know via the Interwebs for many years Having been fortunate enough to read Kate s words in various places online and in print for over a decade I already knew her writing would speak to me as it s done so many times before She and her stories her soul affirming empathy and honesty have always been a gift and something I ve perpetually connected with this beautiful book is certainly no exception to that truth Wholly unintentionally but uite aptly I started reading this book on April 5 my dad s birthday and planned to finish it by April 15th the day he died when I was about to turn 13 This book had other plans for me though and I know it s not coincidence So often in my life I ve felt a book has found me or I ve found it at precisely the right time That I ve started and finished books exactly when I was meant to It took me two months to read this book and another two months to sit with exactly what I wanted to say about it because that s how potent and powerful it is Attempting to synthesize any book into a handful of lines is mostly an effort in madness attempting to synthesize a book like this especially so This book is about grief yes about the costumes it dons the way it holds on how it can fill a room so full you can touch it while it steals the breath from your chest How it can send you into a fit of laughter one moment and inconsolable laments the next It s so much truth about how certain types of grief will never be truly gone and instead must be carried as we reluctantly move on Gently fearlessly patiently collectivelyIt s about all of that and so much While I was reading I covered Kate s pages in words of my own writing notes to myself to Kate to my dad my grandfather my grandmother my aunt Anne who died just over a year before her brothermy father did the woman everyone tells me I look and sound so much like This book arrived exactly when I needed it most and unearthed something important and vocal in me that had been sleeping and for that I will always be so grateful Five stars for truth and beauty for madness and relief and because humans will never stop needing books like this


10 thoughts on “Notes for the Everlost

  1. says:

    375 Kate Inglis a Nova Scotian photographer and children’s author has written this delicate playful handbook – something between a bereavement memoir and a self help guide – for people who feel they might disappear into grief for ever In 2007 Inglis’s identical twin sons were born premature at twenty seven weeks Ben lived b

  2. says:

    I was lucky enough to be one of the early readers for this incredibly moving memoir of sorts written by a true talent and wonderful human I've been doubly lucky to know via the Interwebs for many years Having been fortunate enough to read Kate's words in various places online and in print for over a decade I alr

  3. says:

    Notes for the Everlost A Field Guide to Grief is what you will want to read if you have lost a child if you know someone who has lost a child or if you’re a human being I asked a friend of mine to read it She is

  4. says:

    As a parent that has suffered the lost of a beloved baby this book speaks directly to me Kate so elouently speaks to this sad community and offers a pot of tea lovely writing and immense understanding having suffered the loss of one of her newborn twins uite simply if you know someone that has suffered the loss of a child please give them this book It is so isolating and terrible to suffer that loss This book is like a cup of tea and a g

  5. says:

    I picked this book up a few days ago at the bookshop that I work at I didn’t know anything about this book at all It is a stunning account of grief and loss and living and loving The copy I have is full of highlights and n

  6. says:

    Kate Inglis gets it Her baby died too just like both of mine I wish I could have written this gloriously beautiful book Inglis articulates so many things I've thought and railed against And she does it so damn well She weaves in very practical advice validation and reminders that you the bereaved get to decide what you feel and when and how not the bootstraps barbershop chorus who want you to be ok for their own sake because grief makes o

  7. says:

    With her deeply melodic writing voice the guts of a commander marching her troops unswervingly into danger and the soul of an ocean Kate Inglis finally finally helps us understand what Tennyson meant when he penned “it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all” Kate tells us that “the erasure of Liam never having been Liam —even for a moment — would have been sad than his traumatic birth

  8. says:

    Full disclosure I have known Kate Inglis since 2009 but my first introduction to the author came a few years earlier when my partner pointed me to her weblog we were all bloggers back then innocent and prone to oversharing It turned out that Kate lived only a few miles down the road from the blunt rocky nose of Nova Scotian sea sho

  9. says:

    Notes for the Everlost goes beyond the story of one woman’s grief to reveal the story of humanity of our unadorned selves in their rawest form – pain shame vulnerability sorrow anger defiance and fear The prose at once poetic and simple broken and whole draws upon everyday things we understand to give sound sight and texture to

  10. says:

    Thought this was so well written Endlessly relatable as someone who lost a partner at a young age I think it’s a valuable read for anyone If you’re fortunate enough to not experience a tragic loss in your life it’s good to know how to help friends who may not be so lucky