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Iends and bystanders post loss the uniue female state post bereavement of shame and sorrow at “failing” or somehow not fulfilling your role the importance of community recognizing society’s inability to deal with grief and loss how loss breeds compassion coping with anniversaries and beginning the work of “integration” as opposed to “healing” Notes for the Everlost goes beyond the story of one woman s grief to reveal the story of humanity of our unadorned selves in their rawest form pain shame vulnerability sorrow anger defiance and fear The prose at once poetic and simple broken and whole draws upon everyday things we understand to give sound sight and texture to the many things we don t Inglis brings grief into the experience of living rather than leaving it with the experience of dying and in doing so delivers an utterly beautiful meditation on life

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Notes for the Everlost

Part memoir part handbook for the heartbroken this powerful unsparing account of losing a premature baby will speak to all who have been bereaved and are grieving and offers inspiration on moving forward gently integrating the loss into lifeWhen Kate Inglis’s twin boys were born prematurely one survived and the other did not Notes for EpubThis is the pow Notes for the Everlost A Field Guide to Grief is what you will want to read if you have lost a child if you know someone who has lost a child or if you re a human being I asked a friend of mine to read it She is not a mother whose child has died but she reported that she could not put the book down During various challenging stages of my life I have reached for books to give me insight and perspective Most of the time these books have annoyed me because of their preachy tone or oversimplification of life Can t get your baby to sleep through the night Just let him cry or don t or let him cry in certain increments Trouble with your toddler Just use a sticker chart Struggles in your marriage Just have weekly date nights Kate Inglis has somehow written a book about how to navigate the most tragic impossible situation and she has done it without pissing me off Four years ago my four month old daughter died of SIDS My husband our sons and I were plunged into a nightmare Author Kate Inglis knows Her baby died too In her book Inglis speaks to us I have read many accounts of grief but none written by an author who so intimately connects with her readers On comparing types of loss she writes None of it is better or worse It s all shattering reverence for you Notes for the Everlost reveals how you can be in one of the darkest rawest most jagged places a human can be and how you can still find some glimmer of light some smoothness there Inglis s fierce empathy is woven throughout her story How to mourn Inglis says it dependsMake a pyre of expectations Speak what feels right to speak Be uiet when you need to be uiet Say you re fine when you re not in the mood to talk about why you re not fine Do what you re compelled to do Make someone uncomfortable You have enough to deal with without worrying what people think of your performance You have death to deal with and death has to deal with you and that is enough With vulnerability and stunning articulateness Inglis sculpts a work of truth and beauty Her message is one of compassion How can I be gentle with myself even though I think I should feel better by now How can I navigate a reality in which I will see reminders every day where triggers can send me into a panic attack where time makes no sense Most importantly Inglis is unsentimentally human she reveals her struggle her anger her dark sense of humor a key component for bereaved parents And finally her ability to forgive forgiving those who didn t understand her and ultimately forgiving herself for being someone who could not protect her child from death

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Erful unsparing account of her experience her bereavement and ultimately how she was able to move forward and help other parents who had experienced such profound loss Inglis’s story is a springboard that can help other bereaved parents reflect on key aspects of the experience such as emotional survival in the first year after loss dealing with family fr As a parent that has suffered the lost of a beloved baby this book speaks directly to me Kate so elouently speaks to this sad community and offers a pot of tea lovely writing and immense understanding having suffered the loss of one of her newborn twins uite simply if you know someone that has suffered the loss of a child please give them this book It is so isolating and terrible to suffer that loss This book is like a cup of tea and a good friend when it is needed MOST And it s just beautifully written to boot


10 thoughts on “Notes for the Everlost

  1. says:

    375 Kate Inglis a Nova Scotian photographer and children’s author has written this delicate playful handbook – something between a

  2. says:

    I was lucky enough to be one of the early readers for this incredibly moving memoir of sorts written by a true talent and wonderful human I've been doubly lucky to know via the Interwebs for many years Having been fortunate enough to read Kate's words in various places online and in print for over a decade I already knew her writing would spe

  3. says:

    Notes for the Everlost A Field Guide to Grief is what you will want to read if you have lost a child if you know someone who has lost a child or if you’re a human being I asked a friend of mine to read it She is not a mother whose child has died but she reported that she could not put the book down  During various challenging stages of my life I have reached for books to give me insight and perspective Most of the tim

  4. says:

    As a parent that has suffered the lost of a beloved baby this book speaks directly to me Kate so elouently speaks to this sad community and offers a pot of tea lovely writing and immense understanding having suffered the loss of one of her newborn twins uite simply if you know someone that has suffered the loss of a child please give them this book It is so isolating and terrible to suffer that loss This boo

  5. says:

    I picked this book up a few days ago at the bookshop that I work at I didn’t know anything about this book at all It is a stunning account of grief and loss and living and loving The copy I have is full of highlights and notes in the margins I haven’t experienced what Kate Inglis has but I have been through different sorts of grief and I wish I could gift every person I know this beautiful and painful and essential book

  6. says:

    Kate Inglis gets it Her baby died too just like both of mine I wish I could have written this gloriously beautiful book Inglis articulates so many things I've thought and railed against And she does it so damn well She weav

  7. says:

    With her deeply melodic writing voice the guts of a commander marching her troops unswervingly into danger and the soul of an ocean Kate Inglis finally finally helps us understand what Tennyson meant when he penned “it is

  8. says:

    Full disclosure I have known Kate Inglis since 2009 but my first introduction to the author came a few years earlier when my partner pointed me to her weblog we were all bloggers back then innocent and prone to oversharing It turned out that Kate lived only a few miles down the road from the blunt rocky nose of Nova Scotian sea shore where I’d grown up and my partner was certain that some of the names and places would

  9. says:

    Notes for the Everlost goes beyond the story of one woman’s grief to reveal the story of humanity of our unadorned selves

  10. says:

    Thought this was so well written Endlessly relatable as someone who lost a partner at a young age I think it’s a valuable read for anyone If you’re fortunate enough to not experience a tragic loss in your life it’s good to know how to help friends who may not be so lucky